Romance and Sexuality

The text book meaning of Romance is "excitement associated with love and all the expressions that come with it". The way I understand this is - if love is made up of intellectual, spiritual and physical connection, Romance is the intellectual and spiritual aspect of it. I put the physical aspect under Sexuality and it could be as innocent as holding hands to the most physical act of love making. 

Romance can stand alone and so can Sexuality but while romance on its own can be handled by almost everyone, sexuality on its own can be handled only by very evolved beings. This is because sexuality on its own erupts the very fabrication of self in contrast with social conditioning and its repercussions can be seen. It can be extremely life altering and requires a lot of maturity to just get through with the way things are perceived to be. The end result is usually complete obliteration of self, if and only if, someone can go through it without losing their mind first. So it's difficult to understand and should never be tried casually. 

Romance on its own can be that self-altering only if the individual takes it that seriously. The problem with romance on its own is that the chances of its fizzling before it can become self-altering is real. Since physicality persists but anything that is of mind and spirit cannot be seen and hence chances are can be dismissed by most people as something simpler. The repercussions are less obvious so the pain is proportionate to the individual's sensitivity and awareness. 

Both are painful but while in romance pain is proportionate to the individual's sensitivity and awareness, sexuality becomes painful by social conditioning and repercussions that come with it. Both can be lessons - just like anything else - only if the individual is willing to learn from it. Actually romance or sexuality are all pathways or means to get to the same goal - unconditional love. But just like every other pathway, it depends on how much truth and introspection one can bring to the process. The results differ and so does the elegance associated with these paths solely based on that self awareness. 

My Sweet Haven

 One item off the bucket list! Set up my sweet haven the way I wanted. Good vibes and grateful always for everything...

Unconditional

It is possible to miss someone we love, even as we are pretty much sitting right next to them. I'd not been able to understand this but I think yesterday I was able to see that for a moment. It's wild. It's wild because I now understand the amount of unconditional love this needs. We miss someone like this when we can see them as they are and we find that extremely endearing. Gosh! 

Happy Days!

Today was a happy day. See what you did on such days, try to do more of them!

Doordash!

I love Doordash! It surprises me every time. It just knows what I want to eat, even when I do not know what is it that I am craving for :-)

Tandoori pizza

Chaat

Moong daal halwa 

Sauteed Jalapeno Tofu  

Indian Thali

And much, much more! 😋

Faith

I am happy! The various ways in which universe reiterates and confirms is absolutely fantastic. I mean all we ever have to do is take that leap of faith. 

40s

I turned 40 this year. I had once proclaimed when I was 32-33 that I am looking forward to my forties, I think I am going to have so much fun. And this statement is holding true alright, just not in the way I expected. 

Sometimes the plan that universe has for us is better because it is what we need; not what we want. 

In Love

"If your soul is not ready to surrender to another soul, don't tell anyone you're in love."

- Shams Tabrez

Shams Tabrizi

I had picked up this book "Gazing at the Beloved" from SF Library's book sale. It was no coincidence. That book was needed for me. I learnt more about Tabrizi who was the muse to the poet that was Rumi. 

“Don’t search for heaven and hell in the future. Both are now present. Whenever we manage to love without expectations, calculations, negotiations, we are indeed in heaven. Whenever we fight, hate, we are in hell.”
― Shams Tabrizi

Did you know?

 

#ILikeMySelf

So I told her, " You have to like yourself"

She nodded.

I asked her, "When will you like yourself?"

She said, "When I am confidant.."

I asked her again, "When will you be confidant?"

She said, "When I actually do things and not fake it."

I wish I was around for me when I was 9... 

Intimacy

“I wonder if this is how people always get close: They heal each other’s wounds; they repair the broken skin.”

– Lauren Oliver, Pandemonium

“People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them bare and their response is 'you're safe with me'- that's intimacy.”

― Taylor Jenkins Reid, The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo

Love

Love happens when thoughts, action and words are aligned with purest of intent for the other person. Every relationship that we have has a clear cut intention that plays out the consequences. The outcome of a relationship is decided the minute one gets involved in it - with what intentions. 

Love requires innocence and love requires understanding. It requires mutual respect and it requires space. It cannot have agenda, it cannot be pushed, it cannot be wished / created at will and it definitely cannot be planned.  

People often forget the choices they made at the start of a relationship. They forget to take responsibility of their own choice. They blame everyone but themselves. Always recall what started something - did it have truly have what it would take? 

In Sync

And it finally happened! 

Art does imitate life.

When the whole universe conspires to bring your life together and halt at a moment - idea, people, story, music, production & release - you should give some credit to the original script writer. I mean, how often can you catch someone's attention like this? One can do nothing but sit up and notice and marvel at the coincidences. How often do we see ourselves being played out on the theater screen?

Belief gets reinforced in those moments. So many of them.

Vibration of love is the strongest. 

Is she the one?

Arthur Dent : Just wait a sodding minute! You want a question that goes with the answer for 42? Well, how about what's six times seven? Or how many Vogons does it take to change a lightbulb?Here's one! How many roads must a man walk down?

Lunkwill : Hey, that's not bad!

Arthur Dent : Fine. Fine, take it. Because my head is filled with questions and I can assure you no answer to any one of them has ever brought me one iota of happiness. Except for one. The one. The only question I've ever wanted an answer to - is she the one? The answer bloody well isn't forty-two, it's yes. Undoubtedly, unequivocally, unabashedly yes. And for one week, one week in my sad little blip of an existence, it made me happy.

Trillian : That's a good answer...

Lunkwill : Rubbish, we don't want to be happy, we want to be famous!

Fook : Yeah! What is all this "is she the one" tripe?

Lunkwill : Take his brain!

February!

The month of February is magical. It's short, sweet and full of love. And it happens to contain my birthday! For a couple of years now, my birthday celebrations start on 1st Feb and continue very much till 3rd Feb. I am getting used to so much hoopla around these days..I love all the attention these days get..and this pretty much continues till mid Feb with birthdays of other family members and valentine's day.

Birthdays are always fun! This year was so much fun too! 

The Memories of the Alhambra

My post raving about Netflix's original The Memories of the Alhambra is required since I spent yesterday watching all 6 episodes and am sleep deprived as a result of it.

In the hindsight, was it that fun? Yes, yes and yes! I recall how I felt as I started episode 4 and could not watch it due to Anika's dance recital. :)

Him and I

To be in love with an equal.